How I work

A Compassionate, Science-Backed Approach to Healing

My Counselling Style

Individual Counselling (EFIT – Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy)

Individual Counselling (EFIT – Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy)

My counselling approach is grounded in Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT)—a powerful, evidence-based modality rooted in the science of attachment and emotional bonding. EFIT helps individuals reconnect with their authentic selves, heal emotional injuries, and move toward a life of deeper connection, resilience, and self-compassion.

As human beings, we are wired for connection. Many of our emotional struggles arise from attachment injuries—past experiences that left us feeling unseen, unsafe, or alone. Often, we find ourselves caught between two core needs: the need to belong and the need to be authentic. In childhood, authenticity was often compromised to preserve connection. But as an adult, you now have the power to reclaim both.

In our work together, I will gently guide you to:

  • Reconnect with Yourself: I will help you become aware of where and how you may have disconnected from your true emotions and needs in order to survive. Together, we create a space where you can safely begin to listen to and honour your inner experience.
  • Understand Your Emotional Patterns: Many clients come to me stuck in cycles of anxiety, avoidance, or self-doubt. I will help you identify your automatic emotional responses and survival strategies—often developed in early life—that may now be keeping you isolated or overwhelmed.

 

  • Heal from Within: Emotional injuries don’t just live in your mind—they live in your body, your nervous system, and your beliefs about yourself and others. Through EFIT, I help you turn toward these wounded parts with curiosity and compassion, rather than avoidance. This is where healing begins.
  • Rebuild Emotional Safety: Together, we will explore your emotions in a paced, attuned way—so you don’t feel overwhelmed or alone in the process. You will learn how to be with difficult feelings, regulate them effectively, and ask for support without shame.
  • Foster Secure Attachment: As your therapist, I act as a secure base, helping you create a new internal map of emotional safety and trust. This process strengthens your ability to engage with others in a more open, connected, and grounded way.
  • Empower Your Voice: If you’ve spent years silencing your pain, I will help you give voice to the hurt inner child who never had the space to be heard. You will learn how to speak your truth and honour your needs without abandoning yourself or your relationships.

Through this emotionally attuned and collaborative process, I aim to offer you not just insight—but transformation. I want you to feel that you are not broken. You are a whole person with the capacity to heal, grow, and love again—from the inside out.

You don’t have to go through this alone. In our work together, you are in safe, compassionate hands.

Couples Counselling Style

(EFCT – Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy)

As a certified EFCT therapist, I help couples move from disconnection and distress to emotional closeness and secure bonding. Relationships often break down not because love is lost, but because partners no longer feel safe to reach for each other, express their needs, or be truly seen.

Using the EFCT framework, I guide couples to:

  • Understand the negative cycles they are stuck in—not as personal failings, but as protective patterns rooted in attachment wounds.
  • Recognize how fear, hurt, or past experiences may be shaping their current reactions and distance.
  • Begin having new conversations that foster emotional safety, softness, and vulnerability—where each partner feels heard, valued, and accepted.

As healing takes place, I gently show partners how to risk vulnerability again—how to ask for what they need, express care, and be fully present with each other. This kind of emotional responsiveness is what builds lasting love and deep connection.

No matter how long you’ve been struggling, your relationship is not beyond repair. With the right support, couples can reconnect, rebuild trust, and create a bond that is stronger than ever.

I can help you get there—together.

Counselling Approaches

I take an integrative and client-centred approach to counselling, drawing from multiple evidence-based modalities to best suit your unique needs, personality, and goals. My work is grounded in compassion, collaboration, and the belief that deep and lasting change is possible when we feel truly seen and supported.

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT & EFIT)

At the core of my work is the Emotionally Focused framework—whether in individual or couples counselling. This approach is rooted in attachment science and focuses on helping you reconnect with your core emotional needs, heal from relational wounds, and develop more secure, emotionally satisfying bonds—with others and with yourself.

Humanistic Approach

I deeply value your individuality and inner strengths. Through empathy, authenticity, and unconditional positive regard, I support you in gaining greater self-awareness and self-acceptance. This approach nurtures your personal growth and helps you move toward a more fulfilling and authentic life.

Cognitive Techniques

With training in TEAM-CBT and classical CBT tools, I help you challenge unhelpful thought patterns, shift your inner dialogue, and develop skills to manage anxiety, low mood, and self-doubt more effectively. This is combined with relational depth to create both insight and action.

Mindfulness-Based Practices

I incorporate mindfulness tools such as guided imagery, body scan meditations, and breathwork to cultivate present-moment awareness, reduce emotional reactivity, and promote inner calm. These practices help you respond to life with more intention and compassion.

Positive Psychology

As a certified Positive Psychology Coach, I integrate tools that foster resilience, well-being, and flourishing. Drawing on concepts such as positive emotions, individual strengths, and meaning, I support you in building a more optimistic mindset and engaging more fully with life. We explore what makes life worth living—from cultivating joy and gratitude to finding purpose and enhancing your connection with the world around you.